I haven’t introduced anyone to my son because I feel it’s too soon and he’s also too young. The people I’ve met have not been put off by the fact I’m a single mum, if anything, they’re fascinated and want to know more. I only recently started dating again and I feel like I’m learning to walk for the first time. I try hardest to put aside whatever issues we have and do what is in the best interest of my son. When our son was first born, I asked him to give him his name in order for him to feel involved. I try to schedule time for him to spend with his dad, unfortunately, he’s always never around or too busy. I ensure he knows who his dad is and his paternal granddad. I know this might sound cheesy, but the journey from the start has been an exciting albeit bumpy one. There is a stigma attached to being a single parent in Nigeria. Married women constantly thinking you’re after their husbands… oh and landlords giving you that “where is your husband” look when you go to view a property for rent or assuming you would use the house rented as a brothel. Going it all alone – The sleepless nights, the hospital trips, juggling work, parenting, childcare, etc all by yourself. Trying to explain to your kid why daddy doesn’t live with you. When he’s much older, perhaps I will explain to him that a parent is more than just a sperm or an egg donor. My son is only 3 and still too young to understand but he knows he has family that love him. It might not be your traditional type family, but he has people who care for him and would do anything for him. Telling My Son About Having Just One Parent in His Life He was supportive at first, taking me to hospital appointments etc and planning the future of the baby with me. But I felt it would be unfair not to let him know and so I did. We weren’t in a relationship, so I didn’t expect him to take responsibility or be pleased he was going to be a dad. We hung out frequently and the one time we had sex …. I would like to spin a romantic story, but I met him when I was at my lowest, we shared a few things in common and that’s what brought us together. I’ve always been a nurturer, so naturally I was excited. Jane’s story is inspiring and we hope that single parents will find some strength in her experience. She describes herself as “hardworking, intense, and loyal to a fault”
Single mum, 29 year old Jane* is a financial analyst, who lives in Lagos is the 2nd of three children. Today, we have an uplifting positive story to share in the series.
We kicked off the series with Shola’s really touching story. The matter was adjourned until April 2.This year we introduced the BN Single Parent Pod as an outlet for single parents to share their experiences. .
Raji said that the accused should, however, remain in Kirikiri Prisons, pending when the bail conditions would be met. The Chief Magistrate granted him bail in the sum of N100,000 with two sureties in like sum. She said that the sureties should be gainfully employed with evidence of two years tax payment to the Lagos State Government.
The complainant raised alarm and with the help of passers-by, the accused was arrested and brought to the police station.” Olatunji pleaded not guilty to the charge". The complainant was fast asleep in a kiosk when the accused came from nowhere and attempted to rape her. The police prosecutor, Rachael Williams, told the court: “the accused attempted to commit felony to wit: rape a 65-year-old woman by removing her pant with intent to have carnal knowledge of her while she was asleep. He allegedly committed the offence on March 21 at 11.30p.m. On Monday, an Ikeja Magistrates’ Court remanded an unemployed man, Yusuf Olatunji, for allegedly attempting to rape a 65-year-old woman in her sleep.Ģ8 year old Olatunji is facing a charge of attempted rape.